Lonely

One of the things I learned about being a parent that no one ever really talks about is how lonely you feel sometimes. Before you have your first child, you see all of your friends posting pictures of themselves with their newborns on Facebook looking so happy like they don’t have a care in the world. Obviously, they are not going to post pictures of their babies crying for hours or spitting up or having big messes several times a day, but all those happy pictures that show up on your newsfeed make you forget that parenting can be challenging. Then your baby is born and you end up doing what all your friends did by posting all those cute happy pictures but then crying along with your baby all night long. Even though you know your friends went through the same thing, you begin to think “Why do they always look so happy in their pictures?”. Then, once your baby becomes a defiant toddler, you are still only seeing those happy pictures of your friends’ toddlers doing something cute or making a funny face. You log off Facebook to find your toddler trying to eat some crayons or throw a laptop across the room, and then he/she has a tantrum when you stop them from getting into trouble. Your toddler cries and screams (and sometimes bites), and again deep down you know your friends have struggled with this typical toddler behavior, but you forget that when your toddler is having a tantrum and think “How are their toddlers so well behaved?”

Now I am no expert on parenting, as I only have one child, but I know that it’s normal to feel like your alone when it comes to raising your child and handling those challenging times. I think all new mothers need to know this as it was not something that I thought about before I became a mother. Maybe if people started posting pictures and videos of all the difficult times then mothers would not feel so alone.

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. SimpLeigh Organized
    Jul 13, 2015 @ 23:03:44

    I totally agree with you. We have to constantly remind ourselves that the people posting to Facebook are only posting the “good times”. Like you said, if more people posted real happenings, it would be more helpful to those going through similar circumstances. Something that helped me combat loneliness was joining a mommy playgroup. We commiserated and kept it real!

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  2. December McIntyre
    Jul 13, 2015 @ 23:07:55

    You are totally not alone! You should check out my blog. I speak the truth. Haha.

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  3. HappyFamily
    Jul 13, 2015 @ 23:17:23

    You are not alone at all. For me my social media posts are sort of like an acquaintance asking how are you? They are not really looking for the full picture. I know I avoid posting most of the negative stuff for my daughter’s privacy, I don’t want her to be upset one day when she is older that I overshared her life online. That being said blogging is a real struggle for me, I want to be real, but I also want to protect my daughter.

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